However, I believe that if someone has taken the time to read my profile and send me a complimentary note expressing genuine interest, then they at least deserve a few minutes of my time to look at their profile and respond with a kind note.Not replying is a sure way of discouraging them and knocking confidence.
Depending on the region of the country you’re making contact with, your odds of having someone reply to your initial message vary. Remeber you don’t have to respond to someone sending a ‘wink’ or a ‘smile’ or a ‘teaser’, they are usually not expecting a response.
Women who send these kinds of winks and teasers are often too shy, too lazy, too cheap to subscribe or too busy multi-dating to send a real email.
A conversation is not all about you, nor all about them.
Here is a typical response that keeps the conversation going after the first e-mail exchange: Hi, I am delighted that you wrote back and yes, in response to your question, I would like to continue getting to know more about you.
In fact, I just finished reading the book you listed as one of your favorites. Another reason is that you know you’ll soon have to make up your mind – and you could easily be wrong.
At some point, you may be involved in two or more e-mail exchanges that seem promising, which at times can feel a bit scary. The best advice is to stay on e-mail as long as possible to get to know more about each prospect. Even though most sites are within 10 percent of being equally balanced between male and female postings, you won’t find any balance at all with respect to who writes most of the mail.Staying in the habit of responding quickly to the people that you’re really (or even mostly) interested in will not only get you more dates from the site, but it keeps your head in the game.When you consistently respond and date, you’re less likely to fall in to a rut.What do you enjoy doing most with your children, and what is the hat game you said you all play?When I have free time I often curl up with a good book and listen to smooth jazz.Similarly, I choose not to respond to women who simply attach their profile with no note, or who send a four-line generic form letter.