A lot of Chinese women -- and their parents -- even consider a house and car as prerequisites for potential boyfriends.
As a single, educated Chinese woman approaching 30, Nancy Ji felt tremendous stress from her parents to get married.
So at 28, she hastily tied the knot with a boyfriend. They nagged me about being single every day, and it was very annoying.
My boyfriend appeared at the right time, and he had the right economic profile," Ji says. But it didn't take long for the marriage to fall apart, and three years later Ji filed for divorce.
Part of the problem, she realized, was how she went about finding a partner.
Meanwhile, people are getting married later in life.
As a result, more members of China's "post-80 generation," referring to those born in the 1980s, are opting for love and attraction -- rather than practical considerations -- in finding a partner., says Chinese culture emphasizes honor, duty, and responsibility in relationships -- not love.
Together with her partner Bob Liu, a salsa instructor, she offered dance courses, workshops and salons to teach singles how to date and fall in love.
Hundreds of people signed up for the camp, Wu says, mostly Shanghai white-collar workers in their thirties who had never dated in their life.
Either way it was a source of great amusement and wonder to the two veteran cops - both well-settled and happily married - who met most mornings for coffee with their young colleague "Dan" (who is a completely fictional creation of the authors' imagination and in no way represents any real person, living or dead. Here is the typical progression of said romance, as experienced by Dan: Usually, the time lapse from stage 1 to stage 4 was about ten days, and occasionally overlapped more than one woman.