Unless you work in a totally male milieu – for instance, a urologists’s office, NASCAR race track, or beef ‘n’ ale house -- your quest to meet a man will take you to the Internet.The good news is that you’ll find thousands and thousands of guys online, all trolling for dates.Are you friendly with people who continually hurt you?
DON’T naively assume that his photo is as up-to-date and accurate as yours.
We accepted a date with a guy whose head shot looked perfectly human, even normal. For instance: DON’T get taken in by corny, overused come-on lines like, “Looking to spoil the lady of my dreams with flowers and candlelit dinners.” And beware of perfect strangers who promise to “snuggle with you in front of the fireplace” and “enjoy sunset strolls on the beach.” These guys have one thing on their minds.
Some people are great writers – or even have a friend ghost-writing for them.
In a phone chat, you’ll get a better sense of whether your personalities click. Note: it’s a bad sign if, during his monologue about his golf swing, you’re checking your watch and praying that you lose your cell-phone signal.
Our friend fell for that ploy on a first date, and when she offered her hand as he was leaving, he suddenly French-kissed her, slobbering all over her face. DON’T behave like a kid in a candy store full of online temptations.
If you’ve met a nice, sincere guy, and you’re having a good time dating him, don’t fly to your computer the second you get home to flirt with a dozen new seductive suitors.DO post a recent photo, and write an honest description of yourself.One of our guy friends salivated over a picture of a pgorgeous, blonde, bikini-clad model.DON’T disclose where you live or for that matter, any personal information that could lead to your address, such as your home phone number, last name, or an email address that includes your last name.While most men on the Internet are just as normal as you are, you don’t want Hannibal Lecter ringing your doorbell, even if he’s carrying a box of Godiva chocolates. DO take things slowly, though the chemistry may be magnetic.Arrange to meet him in a public place for the first couple of dates.